What if that person finds the pain of suffering on his own terms less painful than suffering on someone else’s terms at a job?
Just a side point. A lot of men are looking for ways to become tougher. Being strong doesn’t always mean fighting. Usually, the smartest way to handle a confrontation is to walk away.
Violence is serious. If someone wants to fight, just say sorry (even if it’s not your fault) and walk away.
If you get into a fight, and hit someone in the face, what if he suffers minor brain damage? You hit him, he trips and hits his head on a rock? Guess who could be going to jail?
If you get locked up, the last thing you wanna say to yourself is “Why didn’t I just walk away?”
It’s not worth it. Sometimes, you don’t have a choice. But try exiting the situation first.
Despite being a gun owner, I do what I have to do to avoid conflicts unless my life or the lives of my family are in danger, and I’ll leave it at that.
I’m watching this movie while I study charts. I like this movie. I like watching investment movies because I don’t have anywhere else to hear people talking about that kind of business. It gives me a glimpse into that world.
I’m not saying I wish I had met Madoff.
Same for a lot of guys. Method Man, Freeway Ricky Ross, Jordan Belfort, Mao Tse Tung.
These are all bad people. But I can still find some value in them. Lots of 1990s rappers made songs about violence and drugs. In my book, that makes them bad. However, I like listening to their music. There’s something positive I can take from their experience—entertainment.
Same for all the guys above that I mentioned. What they did was bad, but objectively, there’s something I can take away from their story.
Take the good, leave the bad, and learn.
Sometimes, the lesson could be as simple as: think bigger.
OMG, you send these kids to high school after this…all that nonsense about gettting bullied by the big kids is gonna come to an end on day 1. You can bet on it.
There are a few programs like this nowadays. Fathers and sons can do it together en masse.
Also, a father can do this 1-on-1 with his son.
There are men who have created their own tests and rites of passage for their sons. The activities are tailored by each father, and each year or so, the boy receives knowledge and different tests.
For example, one guy made his little boy hike up a mountain with a weighted backpack. The boy cried along the way and asked his father to carry the weight for him, but he refused. When the boy reached the top, he felt so proud of himself. The boy and the father had a talk about growing older and what’s expected of him as a boy who is aging.
A big difference is if you do it on your own, you get to decide when you want to do it, and you might get lazy and start taking days off or not finishing for that day, however, if you go to boot camp, you have a strict schedule and cannot take a break until you finish, pushing you thru those hard days you might want to quit
