Firstly, get rid of the idea of ever “trying to get my money back”! You have to recognise that losing trades are an integral part of trading. What you are trading is not any product, it is probability. Probability is your product. And in order to make money you need to be in the market, but being in the “probability” market means there will be losses as well as gains. So the answer to this issue is money management, not trying to win back losses. In other words, your gains over time exceed your losses. This is the core principle in any business: Gross profits - gross expenses = Net profits. A business needs to manage its overheads to protect its net income. You need to do the same. Your losses are your main expense, and they will happen, and you must ensure they do not eat up all you profits.
Changing to 0.01 lots is very sensible. It allows you to set wider stops for the same stoploss value, gives you scope to build on positions, and provides the flexibility to scale in/out of moves. Then, as your consistency and confidence grow you can increase your position size accordingly.
I agree it is better to use higher TFs than you have been so far. But it is also sensible to check that the TFs you select are sufficiently far apart to be telling you something different. For example, will an hourly and 30min chart really be telling you basically the same thing? Perhaps a 4hr chart for S/R levels might work better with a 30m chart? Worth comparing various options with TFs.
If anything on your chart is not serving a purpose then take it off!
I have been thinking whether I should answer this part or not! I will state here first, as clearly as possible:
I DO NOT SUPPORT MA CROSSOVERS AS TRADING STRATEGIES IN ANY FORM.
What I am posting here about MAs is purely as an example how MAs can be used to add some structure to the price on your charts to help in identifying what is the current underlying trend (if any) and help in selecting areas where trade entries, targets and stops can be selected.
i have used the XAUUSD chart showing your same three trades that you presented above, shown in the orange rectangles. I think you can see two things here. 1) Your first two buys were clearly against the EMA band 2) Your sell was in the right direction but too far away from the EMA band and got caught by the bounce. A better short entry came about 2 hours later with a close back through that EMA band and still close to it (shown in the red circle). A sensible stoploss could then have been set above the recent swings at the red line (the points where you had earlier bought it! 
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This kind of triple EMA is good for keeping you in a trade and for entering after a compression - and avoiding entering at extremes too distant from the band. The basic idea is that the longest EMA is your baseline and identifies the direction or flatness. In this example, it is a 20-period EMA based on median prices. The other two reflect the momentum/strength of the move on whatever side of the baseline the price is moving. In this case these are an 8-period and 13-period EMAs (medians).
I don’t know if this is at all helpful to you, it is certainly NOT a trading strategy as such, but could form part of one if you find it helpful in putting some perspective into your entries/exits.
But you may find these lines only confuse and feel more confident with S/Rs and trendlines. This is whole point of trading strategies - you must develop what “speaks” to you personally. Do not cram too much on your chart, keep it simple, and always remember what each component of your chart set-up is meant to do!
Good luck with those gold nuggets!
