Dealing with emotions is a tricky trick self-task. Being honest with yourself is the first step.
“Once a problem is faced, analyzed, and understood, it becomes a positive energy center for creating solutions.”
The next step is to take responsibility. It is up to you to change this self-sabotaging action. It’s a long self-process that doesn’t happen overnight and requires being tolerant of yourself as well.
Being honest, responsible, and tolerant of yourself is the ‘secret’ mindset.