There is nothing particularly interesting about how I got into this discussion, it was
(and is) something that I feel it is important to address.
I now just tinker around the edges because I have already given as much time
and as many posts to this topic as I could, and I have also seen enough discussion
around the thread to know what other views there are on this from this particular
For a while I kept posting things but nobody would reply, so now that a few people
have taken notice and that moderators/admins have spawned a few related threads
of their own, it feels like there is genuinely more interaction around this topic, which
was one of my aims.
Apart from that, I grew up in a household where women had the biggest influence
and presence, so I have always felt more comfortable around women and in a way
it is perhaps this that makes me really feel it is important to me that women are
not treated like second class citizens in certain areas.
There is a wider topic to be discussed, of course, which is how to challenge the binary
man=careerist/aggressor and woman=housewife/nurturer, which may be said to be
based around a wealth of real-life evidence but it has a damaging flip-side of boxing
people into cages: fathers in court are as credible as women in presidential positions.
This seems to me an undesirable state of affairs, and it is ever more obviously wrong
when confronted with the youthful enthusiasm of children and early adults who care
little for societal expectations of what ‘to be a man’ or ‘to be a woman’ should be.
I personally never felt at ease with the stereotypes paraded in the media for men
and women - men broodingly driving cars with little to say; women washing floors
or pouting in the latest shade of lip gloss - because they are a reduction to the
N degree of what being men or being women could be, which is a huge range
and with ample crossover.
While I think that we cannot just will away or legislate out certain behaviours, it
is important that we try to raise awareness of them so that people at least stop
to ask themselves why they are doing what they are doing. Cultural change
is often what leads to legislative change, rather than simply making new laws
without the necessary cultural shift to support them. Unfortunately just having
laws in the statute books is not the end goal, because they need to be implemented
and enforced, and also there need to be intelligent employers, for example, who
do not try everything in the book to avoid implementing new legislation.
So to answer your question: this is why this topic is important to me, and not, as some
cynical bystander has put it, to ‘get the chicks’, the most unimaginative put-down there
could ever be. It is not a popularity contest or virtue signalling, or I would not have
lasted this long on the topic. The fact that it has become such a long thread is to do
with how I feel about this, and I will continue to feel strongly about this regardless of
whether I continue posting on it here.