There it is, bro. That's the problem.
You might be missing out on effective chart reading practices.
I know you already know that chart reading (including candlestick reading) is very crucial to setting SLs.
Some lot/risk/money management strategies will work but only if you set your expectations right.
I mean, really, let's face it. If you risk just a little every trade, and you only enter trades every other day, your losses won't be as band, and you might even end the year with huge profits.
Don't be so hard on yourself. I feel you're not a quitter so I guess you'll eventually find your own preferred strategy.
Are you using a price action strategy?