The only mentors I have heard of are those who also offer training, and then the mentoring follows on from that - that is what I did, and it worked well for me. One of my motivations in seeking structured training was to avoid the uncertainty that you seem to be experiencing, and to have a dedicated, contextualized support network of whom I could ask questions and walk through examples. But many on here will say that that is wholly unnecessary and that I wasted my money - trouble is, we are all different, so one person’s epiphany is another’s irrelevance.
It sounds as though you almost need help with the psychology of trading, at least as much if not more so than with the technical side. You perhaps need to decide what sort of trader you are, what sort of timescale you want to your trades etc. For instance, and to pick up on your Euro example, while I agree with you that over the medium-long term it would have been brave to go long on the Euro any time recently, there have been some fantastic long opportunites on the Euro on an intraday basis. I have made pips taking it in both directions - that is one of the advantages of Forex trading. The psychology of the various styles of trading can be quite different: as you point out, going long on the Euro at various points this summer would have meant going against the prevailing fundamental wind - that doesn’t mean that it would have been a bad trade, however. There was some terrible Euro news all summer, but I went long, off the Daily chart, on 12th July, and made pips. Then in August I shorted, again end of day, and made pips again. In between those trades, there were intraday opportunities in both directions.
You say that you are good at identifying trend, but it is possible to get an uptrend on one timeframe, and the opposite on another timeframe, at the same time - each can be traded successfully, as long as one understands the relationship.
If you feel that your Stops are currently too tight, but that you might be resisting making the wider as you do not wish to risk too much, it could be that you are achieving the opposite of your intention: if you are right about the overall direction of the move, but are being stopped out, is the move then going as you expect? It might be that widening your Stop a little would give the trade room to ‘breathe’ and enable you to survive the intial bounce then hit a your TP. I would recommend going back over your losing trades and experimenting with different Stops. Had the Stop been 40 rather than 20 pips, for instance, what would your trading result have been? Personally, I do not favour a fixed Stop level, preferring to ‘hide’ my Stop behind a level of Support/Resistance.
Once you have confidence that your overall strategy is working, then you should find that the confidence to back it with greater sums of money comes naturally.
I monitor 20-odd Pairs and have done since I started out, so I personally do not think that that is the problem. I am a largely technical trader, so I scan a number of Pairs, then zero in on the ones that might give a setup that fits my strategy at any given time.
10-12 hours a day is perfectly plausible, and as Master Tang has said, that suggests that you have the work ethic to make this work.
And I can’t think of any reason why your being a lady trader should have any bearing on whether you success or fail, entirely irrelevant!!
Apologies, this has been something of a random assortment of thoughts, but I hope you find something useful in there!! The basic message is, stick with it and it does get easier, assuming you discover some aptitude.
ST