You sound hella young,
If you just graduated university your what 22-23 so around my age.
You’ve got atleast 2-3 years maybe of struggling to find a job if you even need it if you say you are so “profitable” as a trader.
Why are you in such a rush to get married?
I know coming from an asian family your pressured left and right to excel and succeed but in the end if you just want a girlfriend that’s fine, nobody will fault you for it, but don’t go changing your entire life and sweep it into the misery of another job.
Unlike you I was an underachiever, not “average” and for those others I was not an Asian I wasn’t even a Bsian. I was a C-sian, sometimes an Fsian.
I had no idea what I wanted to do I just did what came natural to me and being very headstrong I unfortunately listened to the opinions of others and lemme tell you their opinions are total ****. My parents got to the breaking point where they didn’t know what I was going to do and that I’d be a veg. I distinctly remember them pressuring me to be surprise surprise… doctor, engineer, or something that involved a million dollars a year to which I would spend to lavish upon them for their half to no a$$ parenting, yeah right lets spend money to buy our bullies fancy cars and nice clothes and ****, and the fact that the aptitude tests revealed an anesthesiologist as one of my top 3 they flipped their lids thinking that idiot?
My point in this is that you first have to decide whether its something you want, not your parents, not your sybling, not your mentors, I know its hard with all these young couples getting married before university or even out of university but lemme ask you how many highschool sweethearts did you know marry and stay married? I’m still young and I only know of 2 people in my entire acquiataince, family, and social pool that have even gotten close to marriage and even then it was just an ultimatum he gave her and she ended up splitting from him.
The pressure of growing up is not a proper formula; its not go to school and get good grades, go to post secondary, get good job, meet person at said job, date them, eventually get married and have kids. FFFFF-cuk no. You forget that this isn’t a storybook, you will have heart breaks, you will fail classes, you will encounter people who are no good for you, you will get fired or quit, you will have divorces.
If you take that corporate job I can’t stop you, but imagine this, what if its all males, what if no female comes along for days/weeks/months/years, or better yet what if the female that comes along only dates certain ethnics, or what if this job drains you with long hours enough hours that drain you physically and mentally that you can’t trade or worse keep losing trades? I’ve had that before, I’ve had many jobs before too, I went from fast food, sales rep in tech, driver, charity work, catering/serving, bartending but very briefly, currently in film independently and unionized but I’m considering leaving, and I learn about FX and commodities. Why did I leave those jobs constantly? It wasn’t because I couldn’t find someone hot far from it despite my high standards as my friends tell me, but because those jobs made me miserable and because someone always pushed me into them.
I’ll even take an extra step back from my analysis to illustrate this last point, what if you meet said person yes were all told if we meet “the one” its supposed to be magical you instantly click etc. Problem, how many women have you actually talked to or even dated? What if you don’t know what to say, to do, where to take her, what if you sleep with her and guess what condom broke and yes condoms do break and your a 23/24 year old father with a crappy job you maybe stuck with now since you need that guaranteed income, (what if she doesn’t learn to love your farts)? According to what your saying your social IQ maybe a bit low as well, women will decide whether you are a valid partner in the first few seconds of meeting them. If your a rich fool who hasn’t dated anyone she may even take advantage of you, not saying this is everyone’s opinion just mine but (no pipzilla its not racist if its your own race, back off), I think UOL is in china or wherever you are in asia, recently and previously I’ve noticed a lot of those when I lived on the West coast it didnt matter if they were chinese althought it was really prevalent in them, viet, taiwanese, etc if you didn’t drive a nice car or have some money to spend on the gucci or whatever crap they wear these days they wouldn’t even look at you (I blame sex and the city).
Now your my age, I’ve considered all this in about less than 30 mins give or take and I may not even have scratched the entire core of the real problem. Yes, we do share a similar instinct that we want to pass on our genes or have a companion to share our life with however you also have to factor in the negatives and not just focus on the positives because it will leave you blind to the consequences. I know it sounds very pessimistic but guess what if everything good happens why even have this problem, you take the yin with the yang.
Something to consider, I don’t have anymore time left to rant on however like I said, Listen to yourself and understand what it is that YOU want and not what others want for you.