NN Taleb says that we will basically live our lives within certain boundaries and that “the child of a dentist” will probably achieve a similar outlook on life and a similar income level to that of our parents - it is possible to “underachieve” this in a “Normal” sort of way, but to break out upwardly, is unlikely without the intervention of a “Black Swan Event”
Transactional Analysists take this significantly further (Berne was the “Father” of TA) saying we live our lives by a Script which we learn from our “Parents” - by the time we are 7 ! (The Jesuits said “Give me a child until he is seven, I will give you the man !”)
M Scott Peck in his teachings from “The Road Less Traveled” says that he mat a lot of people with and was zmazed to find that those from happy empowereing homes had a view of life that the world was a lovely place and could not wait to leave home, whereas those from abusive dysfunctional homes had a view that the world was a dangerous place and delayed leaving home for much longer.
WHat happens when we become involved in circumstances as “semi-adult” is that our responses are conditional upon the Script we carry with us.
There are many unbelievably powerful life instructions we carry with us without ever recognising them.
Scripts contain many instructions and injunctions - here are some I found on t’interweb
"…Our chosen life position is based on the encouraging or disparaging pattern of strokes we received from our parents (and others).
Parental teaching often happens at an unconscious level: when parents are excited by and approve a child’s behaviour, the messages they give are often permissions; however, when parents feel threatened by a child’s behaviour, the messages expressed are often injunctions.
Permissions are just as the word implies - giving the child permission to do something. For example, “Do think”; “Do ask for what you want”. They are the opposite of injunctions.
Injunctions are prohibitions or negative commands from a parent (often outside their awareness) and come from the parents’ Child ego state (the scared or angry Child ego state). They are expressions of disappointment, frustration, anxiety and unhappiness which come out of the parent’s own pain.
Injunctions establish the “don’ts” by which children learn to live. These messages are predominantly given nonverbally and at the psychological level between birth and seven years of age. Injunctions include:
“Don’t be a child”
“Don’t be close”
“Don’t be sane”
“Don’t grow up”
“Don’t be separate from me”
“Don’t be the sex you are”
“Don’t be well”
“Don’t be you”
_The child responds to these injunctions and makes a script decision. It is the negative script decisions which will possibly cause difficulty later in life…"
As children, we make certain decisions based on our experiences. You may remember making some of those decisions ? I had a great deal of discussion once upon a time with an Australian Lady of my own age, who had decided as a girl, that the world was a dreadful place and it would not be fair to bring children into it !
Often the decisions are something like "I won’t treat my own children like this …! "
Speaking of Trading, If you visit some of Anton Kreils stuff - he speaks of “The Narrative” (Script) and he also advocates “Making your own decisions as to what to trade and when” - (ie DO Think ! ) Maybe his stuff will not directly make our “Binary Ttades” positive, but I do see some evidence that Female “Trader / Investors” are rather better at that aspect than we males might be !
(His 3 tv Programmes made for BBC are particularly instructive in “How Professionals trade” )
SO now back to “the real world” - or at least what is currently perceived as such. We can see evidence of a number of “Games” which are dominating current communications ;
"Ain’t it Awful ? "
The Drama Triangle ;
This is not definitive, but Karpman himself recognises it’s thoughfulness and seems approving;
My suggestion is that this thread and many of it’s submissions are based on “Drama Triangle” positions, wherein some of the participants can be seen to “Switch positions” !
I would ask you to take a look at it and see if you can see where I am coming from ?
Perhaps we can even agree that the tenets of this game are seeming to be present in this thread ?
Then there is one of the traditional Response of “Victim” to attempts to rescue “Her”
“Why don’t you ? - yes but…”
A good "Player is reputed to be able to kepp six or more “Rescuers” at bay for several hours at parties, until they “Wander off” ;
Food for thought there mate ?
Unfortunately we already have an indication ;
For the sake of your little one, I ask you to perhaps revisit that decision ?
Here is another great book
Perhaps take a look inside ?
All the best