Hi @brandleesee, and thank you for your kind comments!
I am happy to offer my thoughts on your trading if you wish, although I am not sure that it will prove to be very helpful!!
Firstly, I would suggest that it is not worth getting too wrapped up in the pyschological issues relating to trading. Certainly, they are real issues but they can be approached pragmatically rather than emotionally. The real issues underlying this particular area is building confidence - Confidence in your strategy, and confidence in your ability to trade your strategy as it is intended (that might sound silly but it is not always so easy to do!).
The strategy
I haven’t seen much here yet about your actual trading strategy except that you wish to day trade. So firstly, you need to decide whether you are looking for a mechanical system where you just implement the signals as the strategy generates them or a discretionary method where you, as the trader, have the final say on whether to take a trade suggested by the method and where to set targets and stops and when/if to adjust them.
I assume you are probably developing a discretionary approach. If so, then your method should be capable of offering clear and unambiguous suggestions/indications of suitable trade set-ups.
Then you need to stick to your rules and journal your trades, even the ones that you decide not to take.
Because trading is all about probabilites then it is essential to accept that there will be both gains and losses and therefore the outcome of any individual trade is not relevant on its own. The objective is to evaluate your method over time and a series of trades so that you can build confidence in its overall profitability rather than being drawn into emotionalising over each and every trade as they occur.
In a way, this is what we mean when we say that trading succeeds better when it becomes boring! But it is not really a question of being boring, rather, it is the way trading becomes very routine when going through the preparations, demanding patience when waiting for the right set-up and discipline when applying the rules and risk/funds management parameters.
But without a consistent approach to all these aspects, it is impossible to evaluate your method’s true potential and develop the necessary confidence needed to trade - especially if your aim is to trade full-time for a living.
One of the benefits of day trading is that this process of evaluating your method and developing confidence is quite fast because the results come on a daily basis instead of waiting days or even longer for each trade to work out.
The question of whether to day trade is really purely pyschological. It does not mean having to sit by a computer or smartphone all day and trade loads of ins and outs (although that is also a day trading approach!)
I have always been a day trader even though I would really like to trade longer term. I simply cannot keep trades open when I am not around to monitor them and I like to have “neutral” periods in between trading periods when my mind is free to focus on other things. Other people are very different. You have to decide this yourself.
If you are going to day trade then I would suggest that you do not try to be a trend trader. Day trading usually means looking for a trading opportunity every day and markets do not trend every day. However, one should be aware of what the current longer term trend is and what stage it is at. This does not mean you cannot day trade against the main trend, it just means that you know whether you are trading with or against the trend!
Instead of trying to trade the trend, I would suggest that, as a day trader, you look for a set value for the day and when you have banked it you finish for that day. Your approach is more oriented towards earning an income from your trading “job” rather than speculating how much you might be able to gain out of the trend (if there is one).
The key issue here is how to earn sufficient from the day. This is a question of balancing pips distance with position size. e.g. 10 pips with 10 lots or 100 pips from 1 lot. By definition, if you are looking to eventually earn a full-time salary from day-trading then your position size will need to be quite large to gain sufficient profit from, say, 20-30 pips on the day. (For this reason, I migrated from forex to indices where the daily movements are much wider and with more opportunities).
Regarding the method used for day trading, you need to decide whether PA or indicators are more effective, or a combination of both. Personally I use a combination of PA-based levels and candles from the daily chart combined with just a few MAs on the shorter term charts: I-hour is the my anchor chart and then dropping to the 15m/5m to fine tune entry timing and exit levels. But that is just a personal approach.
There is, of course, a lot more that can be talked about but that would depend on a clearer idea of how you are trading and your particular method.