Sunday is Father’s day here in the uk (17.June) . One of my daughters and her husband are taking his dad, my partner and me out for a meal at one of the better “eateries” around here.
That is nice.
Neither he nor I have much time for my daughter’s mother, and when I look back in time and remember the crap I went through trying to bring the kids up, I am forced to think of those Fathers and their children currently denied access to each other by manipulative women.
Yes I spent the £5,000 taking her through the courts to get “parental Responsibility” for my kids, with her not attending court and the case being constantly “Postponed”. Yes I managed to stop her subsequent husband from legally “Adopting” my kids. (He got legal “Parental responsibility” - just by marrying my ex- although I know he regretted it later !) Yes I managed to see them every single weekend. Yes I paid the “maintenance” money every week. Yes I sat up with them all night sometimes, helping them to understand their schoolwork and write up “Projects” etc - but until I had taken her through the Courts, the “Schools” would not speak to me. I remember one Head telling me this once and I remember saying “No but you can LISTEN !”
Yes I gave up a good job once to look after them when the “ex” was playing up.
Such are the trials of being a “Dad”
Now they are grown, my kids love me and I love them
Hwever I know the trauma and distress that a great many Fathers in the uk are going through even as I type and sadly the propaganda crap that is moulding young minds to think their fathers are Bad people by mothers who want too “get rid of the past” and for the kids to “Start new lives - with your New Dad” !
Yes I know “Father’s day” is a hype for Retailers to cash in on, but it’s also a time for some of us and our children to reflect on the past and enjoy the present, provided they are Allowed to !
And time perhaps to spare a thought for those Dads and kids who see the adverts and the celebrations on TV and just silently think “If only”
Happy father’s day to those of you who are and do not have the problems I mention.
I hope that you never do actually understand what I am talking about here.
And a VERY happy Father’s day to those dads and kids who do Understand exactly what I speak of and have managed to survive ! Well done !