Thank you mate, i appreciate that.
i get what you mean
and let me say this
sometimes… i don’t mean it and maybe i don’t realize it
then, at other times, i’m intentionally being hard , and the reason is… to give them a kick up the rear end, because they need it.
I’m not here to spoonfeed people.
i’m here to here to help.
Now. if a newbie asks something stupid like “what is a pip” i will try to politely say , go to the school tab (when really i would like to slap them upside the head ), and sometimes the question is so dumb that you can’t help but come across in a negative way.
Look, maybe , because i’m an engineer and i’m from the 80’s (born in the 70s) and maybe because i was taught to not be lazy and to research and find answers… maybe that’s why i am like this.
it has been my life experience that to help someone you sometimes need to push outside their comfort zone.
and this is forex of all things , people need to pull their finger out instead of waiting for others to help them.
i mean, seriously , they expect people to tell them FOR FREE (mind you) how to make $1000 a day.
and god forbid you should give the guy a speech on getting their act together and creating positive habits that will later lead to said profits.
instead the guy says “Umm i think that’s a bit rude” LMFAO
bunch of fairies that like to live in the illusion of forex land where money rains from the skies
bottom line,… they either want to do it or they don’t
if they ask and i see they are serious , i show them the respect of giving the correct answer and showing them the way.
if they need a kick up the bum, i’ll give em one
i expect them to understand it’s a kick of love (hehe) if you get my drift
so i can see how the kick comes across as mean, but they are supposed to take it objectively and as advice, but they don’t , they get offended. oh well.[quote=“purtle, post:17, topic:133819”]
And I know you spend time crafting messages and really trying to help but I feel like if the other person is also hurt (or maybe offended or feel bad or whatever) in the process, then the message you’re trying to get across is also lost.
maybe you’re right
it’s hard to judge who does and who doesn’t lose it though.
mate, i’ll be honest, if i had to trade honesty and bluntness for holding their hand and saying “it’s ok , it’ll be alright, just watch your risk, blah blah blah BS BS” mate, it’s probably better i don’t comment anyway.
i feel that that type of advice would be absolutely useless to them as a trader.
i can work on toning the bluntness down, but it will get to a point where it becomes a question of… is this still worth responding to.
the way i see it , it’s a balance of Blunt vs Emotional consideration,
the more you consider emotions, the less blunt you have to be
the less blunt you are the more you ARE MASKING THE REAL ISSUE, that’s how i see it.