Yep,Our ST here knows it to well how family works and such…
It is very rare for a man to talk about wanting to start a family I am sure you and your partner will work things out. Maybe you should encourage your partner to learn how to trade and maybe she will like it. Who knows… It will be good to see how she can bit you to it and kick your ass lol… Oh that will be fun!
Interesting article… I have read similar to this before not sure where though. As far as freezing their eggs, I guess whatever works for them. Sure you can have a child but raising a child is a very difficult thing to do especially raising it by a single dad or mom. Are they only doing this because of peer pressure by their family and friends who think that there is something wrong with her if she is not married or doesn’t have a child at a certain age? A child needs both parents not just one. I don’t know I am just an old fashion lol. She can have a child all she wants either by doing this or via adoption but I just hope that the needs and wants of a child like a guidance from a father figure is there. You needed both…like I said I’m an old fashion
I fully agree that the ‘average’ thread feels much smaller now in all aspects: views, replies, interaction, depth etc. Although personally, due to my shift in how I believe successful trading is done, I don’t mind it too much; I spend most of my time doing research that isn’t talked about much on forums anyhow.
Back then it felt like there were a few ‘champion threads’ that were highly active with a lot of material being passed around. And on that note the chatroom was an actual thing back then. Granted I probably didn’t learn very much from the hours I spent it there, but it was time well spent nonetheless; the things I did receive from that are invaluable. These days the only real threads I see are the pure PA threads and the occasional bait thread offering unrealistic returns. Perhaps I’ve auto filtered any thread that doesn’t fit the mold of my style (whereas back then I was a clueless trader willing to read and follow anything), but it’s certainty noticeable to me when I spend more time in these threads than the forex systems threads.
I wasn’t probably around the time when there are so many active " good" traders around or maybe I wasn’t paying attention back then. A lot of those good folks are probably moved on into something else. I felt the same way, when you finally found what works for you, you don’t have any more time to look at other systems because you are more focus on what you have and trying to improved those. I guess it is different when you are just starting out than who have been doing this for a little while…but it is still good to see and bounce some ideas from time to time.
I try and be consistent with coming around but I am ever so busy so it can be tough. I have never been a big forum fan but I really enjoy the conversations around here and as trading becomes more main steam it is great to be able to have a place were traders can be encouraged after all we can’t expect this unrestricted access to financial markets to continue if too many people keep loosing their pensions, houses playing the most difficult game called speculation. So great community to be a part of.
You never know - my wife and I have been together since University, but were 30 when our first was born, and 39 when our latest was born last year. Having spent ten years together with careers but no children, then having had kids in 2004, 2006, 2009 and 2013 I can say that however much fun the first ten years were, the second certainly exceeded them as an average sensation of joy. And trading works very well around it all - my wife, although now based largely at home (London for a couple of days each fortnight being the exception) continues in the same corporate career she commenced straight from University, and I do the childcare during the day and trade around the extremities and it all works better than we might ever have imagined.
Lol. I wanted kids for a good while before Claire (Mrs Templar) - I remained her mother’s best hope for grandchildren! Then one day we woke up and Claire biological clock had kicked in. Had a baby within a year. Turning 30 turned out to be our trigger, but in our case it was my idea. I like to think that men are waking up to the joys of the domestic side of family life, finally.
We have both just turned 40, and our daugher Alice is 14 months old. I have to say, I feel the same as I did 15 years ago - indeed I’m probably fitter - so I think with modern awareness of health, diet etc the effective, real-world ‘operating window’ for both men and women is better than it has ever been. So don’t write it off just because you hit some significant numbers on a calendar would be my (slightly presumptuous, for which apologies!) advice.
There’s a lot to be said for being a little old-fashioned, imho!
Awwh, shucks, that’s very kind of you. I don’t know about all that - overt macho posturing has just never been for me, particularly not on a largely anonymous internet forum! - but personally the only people I have ever admired or respected in life have known their own centre and have lived the way they want to live without doing anything to the detriment of others. While material assets are lovely to a point - I have a 1960s MG and an old Land Rover which give me a lot of pleasure - I am far more motivated by family time and the sense of achievement that comes from successful joint adventures with family and friends than I am by the more eye-catching, stereotypical fruits of trading as a career.
I started trading as my previous career was incompatible with a young family on a number of fronts, and my wife and I wanted to restructure our life around family, but with sufficient finance behind us that that restructuring did not entail too many compromises in what we could provide for our children. I am happy to say that the project worked, and I enjoy helping others understand that trading can dovetail neatly with the real-world demands of life, and indeed can enhance one’s flexibility. For me, that is its true advantage. I have a good education, and was lucky enough to have a start in life that offered a number of opportunities, so there were careers open to me that would have given me a nice lifestyle, with the trappings, so that stuff really is not my point. For me, the unusual appeal of trading is that I can do a school run, take my daughter to the park, go to my sons’ daytime concert at school, have lunch every day with my wife & daughter, and still earn a good income from trading in that same week. So that is the drum I tend to bang around here.
In my view, many people can learn to trade, and then use that knowledge to unlock a far more balanced, traditional lifestyle than is the stereotype generally associated with trading. I am originally from London, and have many friends wrapped up in the City world but personally, much as I love London and other cities, I am more often found with Claire in my old stone house up a windy hill in the Peak District, or at a school event, or tinkering with a slightly rusty and inexpensive classic car, or any number of other mundane things. Trading is key to that work-life balance.
In my experience, the ones who bang on about their flash lifestyle or expensive cars are generally the insecure ones rather than the genuine alpha types, and they’re not the sort I want to be standing next to should a genuine crisis hit.
I don’t know about my being an asset to the forum - I don’t do myfxbook or similar, so presumably there are many who think that I am one of the many hot air-mongers any trading forum attracts. But I am glad that you like the tone of my posts, and right back at you!
Anyway, thank you for the kind words, and I agree on the frustrations associated with there being a few hundred miles between our locales. BP will have to suffice!
Apologies, incidentally, for straying so far from the original point of this thread, I will try to stop rambling now. If you would rather remove the post then please do so with impunity, and if you need me to then do please just say. I have broad shoulders and don’t offend easily.
I really found your piece touching Simon. Very humble. I am sure we all enjoyed that share.
A lot of that is needed around these forums, encouragement for people who want to trade to balance life. A worthwhile deviation from the original thread. Like pipme I agree you are obviously a real asset to the forum.