yes, but why are we pulling out a dictionary here, i know what THREATEN means, so do you.
and i know the context in which it was used
so i said
I HAVEN'T THREATENED TO LEAVE
if i had to put a word to it, i would say that i PROPOSED THAT I WOULD LEAVE
or that i CONSIDERED LEAVING
but mate, whatever word tickles your fancy.
because by the same game rules, and because i disagree with your choice of words, i could say YOU ARE ASSAULTING ME
because Assault is ANYTHING THAT IS UNWANTED OR UNWELCOMED... ok
but we are not in court and we don't need to pull out dictionaries to know what we meant.
you could say, Martin you threatened to leave in the past
i could say,... No i didn't
then you could just say, then what was that thing you did
and i could tell you.... i was just considering leaving or proposing that i wanted to leave but i wouldn't consider it a threat
simple as that mate
and those examples
NOTICE THE USE OF THE WORD CONSIDERING as opposed to threatening
My wife does this , mate
i say something, she changes it into something else, then i have to tell her that's not what i meant.
and i'll tell you
THAT'S NOT WHAT I MEANT, it wasn't a threat it was a consideration
and i considered it and i didn't leave and i came to a better solution
yes and let's look at that for a second shall we
I'm not trying to change the world, but.. UNDERSTAND THIS CLEARLY
if you say something, then... YOU SAID IT
and YOU KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN or MEANT at the time, thats' right isn't it ?
and so do i
Now imagine you say something and someone goes and changes what you meant
DO YOU THEN CONFORM TO THEIR DEFINITION OF WHAT YOU MEANT? No, of course not.... You correct them
and I'm correcting you
and i've had to correct a few people , because IT'S WHAT I SAID, AND I KNOW WHAT I MEANT
thank you mate, Yeah, i never realized that until now.
i'm going to use this english language tool in any way i see fit ... ok
i'm going to say things as i deem them appropriate, now IF YOU TAKE THEM THE WRONG WAY, that's your fault
and there is a solution, i can just say to you politely, THATS' NOT WHAT I MEANT
you then have 2 choices
You can accept what i'm saying and make the adjustments to your train of thought with respect to what i said
you can choose to believe that you are right and what i said is wrong even though i said it.
like you said mate
YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE WORLD
i can only tell you what i mean
what you do beyond that is up to you
mate, what in gods name are you on about
ok..... WE ARE TALKING HERE... ok
it really is as simple as that
i said something
we are not wielding Excalibur her , nor do we have to use words like doth or thou art and be ever so poetic.
at this point i really feel we are going in ridiculous directions, i mean all you have to do is understand that you took what i said to a different level of context and gave it an elevated meaning when that's not how i meant it
mate, Just understand this is simple
i didn't mean it that way.. that's all
now this is a valid point..
ok fair enough, i have no arguments on this point and i'll pay attention to it
but you do me a favour as well, ok
When i say to you , i didn't meant it like that..........ACCEPT WHAT I'M SAYING... ok
life will also be simpler if you do that
be cool ok